Etiquette/Safety

ESCORT ETIQUETTE

 

Know The Law:  Talking about sex acts for money = Misdemeanor. So it goes without saying that talking, texting, or e-mailing sexual comments, X-Rated pictures, slang, insinuating, innuendos, and cutesy terms, if corresponding with an Escort, is considered illegal. It goes unsaid that you will be paying said Escort upon meeting her. So you don't even have to discuss money to break the law. It is legal to pay an escort for their time and companionship only, what happens between you two after some time together is up to the two of you and the details should never be discussed beforehand. Be smart, stay safe and have fun!

 

This page is for new and old hobbyists that just don't seem to understand the law. If you fail to follow these first few suggestions you may get yourself in a lot of trouble and most importantly, I won't be able to book your appointment. For more info on why this page is so important read the News Page.

 

It is not illegal to be an escort, it is, however, illegal if the escort is selling sex. Escorts are typically arm candy, companionship, dinner companions, and event companions. They are for the purpose of what the name entails:

 

 

World English Dictionary

Escort

 

— n

1.

one or more persons, soldiers, vehicles, etc, accompanying another or others

for protection, guidance,restraint, or as a mark of honour

2.

a man or youth who accompanies a woman or girl: he was her escort 

for the evening

3.

a. a person, esp a young woman, who may be hired to accompany another 

for entertainment, etc

 

b. ( as modifier ): an escort agency

 

— vb

4.

tr ) to accompany or attend as an escort

 

It is here that I present to you a few simple suggestions to make your date with an escort possible, easy to schedule, all that it can be and more. In order to enjoy the services of any Escort, you need to learn how to discuss their services correctly. While some of those reading this might be well versed in chatting up Escorts this list is more for the novice client who has little to no clue of how to go about it, and also for some that think they have been safe but may actually not know the proper way to communicate. Unfortunately, undercover law enforcement also pose as escorts in order to bust hobbyists (especially on Backpage.com).

 

These suggestions could also be considered a helpful guide for those up and coming Escorts who need a few guidelines to get started, as well as the know how to stay out of trouble. As such, there are a few things we all need to understand. So let's get started...

 

1. Escorts DO NOT sell sex. (While some people often confuse Escorts and Prostitutes the big difference is simple. Escorts sell their time, not sexual acts. What happens during the time spent with an Escort is up to two or more consenting adults who possess similar likes and interests. It's that simple. )

 

2. Because of what was mentioned in one (1.) you will discover Escorts DO NOT talk to clients about sex between yourself and themselves at all, in any form or manner. Don't even hint at an act, mention fetishes, use abbreviations or elude to a topic. This is just as inappropriate as you if were setting up a traditional date. The reason is as mentioned above. They are selling their time. To avoid delays in communicating with an Escort keep the discussion light and fun. 

 

3. This is a biggy! NEVER associate a sex act with a fee or rate $$. Escorts are not prostitutes. The only people on the planet who attempt to associate sex with a fee when communicating with an Escort work for Government agencies, Police departments or are soliciting hookers. Making this fee/act association will end a conversation with an Escort immediately and once again everybody loses. Avoid this mistake at all costs and you will have a great new friend a phone call away.

 

4. When first contacting an Escort, be sure to supply as much information you feel comfortable providing; including your first name, your age, your height, your weight, a general location, interests, etc. Escorts are going to learn all of this information anyway so why not get started on the right foot, plus it makes the whole process run a lot smoother and faster. Something to avoid is sending E-mail with lewd, crude wishes and wants. These usually get ignored and it halts communication. Not to mention, if you are a client unknowingly communicating with an undercover law enforcement officer, can get you in a lot of trouble. Not good.

 

5. Always pay the agreed upon monies/fees mentioned on the Escorts Rates page within the first 5 minutes of the date. NEVER make the Escort ask for money and DO NOT mention money during the date, as that may result in immediate termination of the date. They are providing a service after all. When hiring an Escort for a week or more always pay half up front. This will put you high on the Escorts client list and you'll get immediate attention in the future.

 

6. When you first meet up with your Escort be sure to leave the agreed monies/fees on the dresser, bed, coffee table, etc. always in plain view. It's best to place the monies/fees inside a Birthday card or Thank You card, or at the very least an unsealed envelope. Expect the Escort to count it (wouldn't you if your positions were reversed?). You should never make her ask for the money, and never hand it to her directly.

 

7. Have your ID available for the Escort to inspect. If you don't trust your Escort enough to see your ID then you need to look elsewhere for companionship. If an Escort cannot determine that you are not a form of oppressive puritan society then they cannot visit with you because they take a chance on meeting an undesirable client, a member of some kind of harassing government agency or a client who might mean them harm. In the event you are staying at a hotel EXPECT the Escort to call the front desk to confirm you are a registered guest and in the room number you provided before they ever show up. This will require you providing your full name which will be compared against your ID. This is for safety reasons.

 

8. Expect the Escort to have told a trusted friend where they were going, for how long and with whom including details. Expect this trusted friend to have your contact information, e-mail address, cell number and even your hotel/house number as the information keeps flowing up until they arrive at your door. They will likely call someone they trust once they've established a rapport. Escorts have friends too and to stay safe they keep the most trusted well, well informed.

 

9. Whether your first meeting with your Escort is in a hotel room or home EXPECT the Escort to go immediately to the bathroom, or take a quick tour of your home to make sure there are no additional "guests", cameras or microphones. Do not be alarmed by this. Sometimes clients surprise Escorts by bringing a friend or friends along without warning. Never a good idea!! This can annoy or even scare your Escort and will destroy the mood. Upon finding no unexpected guests, cameras, or mics you can then EXPECT the Escort to then lock all of the doors in the room including sliding glass doors and doors to joint/adjoining rooms. The time you have purchased is for you alone. With all the doors locked the Escort will have a much easier time concentrating on you and you on them.

 

10. Only offer beverages to your Escort which are sealed in bottles or cans. You could also expect your Escort to supply their own beverages for their own use. No Escort wants to get dosed with any kind of drug, or have to worry about it, so to avoid this it's a great idea to follow the sealed bottle/can rule. If an Escort does accept a beverage from you EXPECT them to drink it fast or not to put the container down until it's finished due to the above reasons. Once trust is established or you're a repeat client this will not be such an issue.

 

11. This one is easy and common sense. DO NOT treat the Escort like an item/object. They are human beings, just like you and me, making their time available to you as eye candy on your arm, a dinner guest, a travel companion, a drinking buddy or what have you. Treat your Escort as you would have someone treat you and you're likely to make a life long friend and have a hell of a lot more fun. The only time this doesn't apply is in role playing exercises providing it's consensual.

 

12. EXPECT your Escort to treat you professionally. They see you as a client and soon to be friend. They do not view you as their boyfriend/girlfriend. If you are looking for a relationship/romance then stick with a girlfriend/boyfriend and leave the Escorts to their 'friends' who enjoy their services.

 

13. PLEASE BE CONSIDERATE OF OUR TIME. If you cannot make your appointment time, please take two seconds and send her a quick "I can't make it." text, e-mail, or phone call. The Escort blocks out an hour or more of her day to spend with you when you book an appointment. Therefore, she is turning other potential clients down for that particular time, some can book another time, others may not be able to, therefore she loses that opportunity. If you don't let her know, you're not only wasting her time, but also costing her potential money. It's just common courtesy to let her know you can't make it.

 

14. Lastly, always tip your Escort, even if it's a minor amount. Everyone likes to be told they are doing a great job and this gesture, if even $10, makes a world of difference.

 

Well, there you have it. I promise you if you follow these simple suggestions you will never have a problem contacting an Escort, setting up an appointment, having a great first meeting or enjoying your new found friend. The memories which can be generated by your success in following these suggestions are golden. Do yourself and the Escort a favor and play nice.

 

MORE TIPS ON STAYING SAFE

 

These easy tips are for new and old hobbyists alike that see Escorts. I believe all hobbyists would benefit from these pointers to keep themselves on the down low from wives, girlfriends, or LE, as well as safe from the bad elements (rip-offs/scams/bait-n-switch) that can be found on BackPage and other low-end sites. Make sure to read my Etiquette Pg to learn about the law and how to keep yourself out of jail, as well as how to have a great appointment.

 

Whether you do this just once in your lifetime, or you make a hobby of it, DON'T RUSH IT. I know the mood hits you and you want to find that special girl right now! However, jumping the gun and just calling all the pretty faces and asking inappropriate questions can get you in a lot of trouble. Be smart about it. You are quite possibly looking for a future friend and confidante in an Escort so wouldn't you want to make sure she's the right one for you?

 

1. Escorts have assumed names, why shouldn't you? If you choose to do this, when contacting an escort, you will need to provide your legal name for her security purposes, BUT make sure she only keeps your assumed name for her records if she keeps records. Most escorts will require seeing an ID upon meeting initially to confirm who you are so they will know your true identity regardless. But for your safety make sure she only keeps your assumed name for her records.

 

2. Purchase a pay-as-you-go phone to use in the hobby. (Boost, T-Mobile, Straight Talk, or any other that provides pre-paid minutes). These types of phones do not require a contract or name and are relatively cheap. Keep this phone in a secure location away from wives, girlfriends, or co-workers. If you choose to use your real phone and keep the escorts name, either put a lock screen on your phone and don't let anyone have the password, or be sure to delete texts and call history if your phone is easy to access by your wife/girlfriend, kids, or co-workers.

 

3. Create a new e-mail address to use for the hobby. G-mail is a great free e-mail site that provides added protection from hackers. Some escorts send updates on new websites, specials, or traveling dates to their clients so keep an eye on your inbox and spam folder (sometimes their e-mails go to spam because it's usually mass mail) for stuff like that. 

 

4. If you have to use your personal phone cause you can't or don't want to have an extra phone, then save the escorts name in your phone as a man’s name that's easy for you to remember. And if you bought the extra phone, don't leave it laying around for other people to find.

 

5. When surfing the net at home for an escort make sure to clear your search history, delete cookies, and website history. Be smart with your computer, and cover your tracks.

 

6. Join a review site. TheEroticReview, Naughty Reviews, or RS2K to name a few that I'm listed on (See Reviews Page). They cost a little bit (up to 50/mth) but will, in the long run, save you money, keep you safer, and you won't waste your time or your money with the wrong girl. This keeps you safer because by reading about the Escort, you will not have to ask a stranger any personal questions prior to meeting. Therefore you don't break any laws.

 

7. When scanning ads no matter what website you use (BackPage, Eros, Preferred411, Date-Check, Cityvibe, MyProviderGuide, etc) you should ALWAYS look for reviews. Its simple, Google the phone number, e-mail address, or her name along with the words, "escort" and "your city name".  Does TheEroticReview or NaughtyReviews pop up with her profile?  Does she even have any reviews? Are they good, bad, or YMMV (Your Mileage May Vary)? How many does she have? 10 or more, then good enough to get an idea if she's legit or not, less than 10 - YMMV. Are they recent (within 6 months)? Is she on any other advertising sites or is she just on BackPage? Does she have a website? Most Escorts with websites are the real deal, but they are far and few between, you should always still check reviews!

  

8. REMEMBER: If the Escort you are trying to see breaks the law in phone conversation, text or e-mail DO NOT go pay her money!!! She is likely Law Enforcement trying to trap you. Use your judgement but please be safe!

 

Using the above tips will keep you relatively safe for your hobbying life. Now get this stuff done, don't do anything you shouldn't do, and have a great time!!!

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